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Dating Confidence is Important

Posted in dating over 40, Dating With Confidence, online dating, senior dating on July 8th, 2010 by Admin – Be the first to comment Tags: , , , , , , , , ,

Dating Confidence is Important!

Confidence with dating is clearly an important element in finding the right partner. While it may endearing to encounter someone who is shy, it is not such fun for the shy person, who no doubt strongly wishes he or she had more self confidence.

For this reason we present today an article by a guest author which outlines a simple method to improve your dating confidence, and in fact your self confidence in general. If you want to achieve self confidence with women or men then it is well worth setting aside a little time to try the simple technique outlined in the article below.

Become Your Own Mirror – Rebuild Your Confidence
By Joanna Lindenbaum

Let’s say Geena is your friend of many years. She is a smart, creative, go-getter and beautiful to top it off – a source of admiration for many. Yet still, she confides in you, whenever she lands a major success like getting published in a popular publication or being accepted into a competitive position, she has this creeping sense of being a fraud, as if she does not deserve it, brushing it all off with “oh, it’s really nothing.”

You can hardly believe it when she expresses feelings of insecurity to you despite her many positive qualities. When it comes to her own personal life goals and dreams, you are surprised that she expresses a deep lack of confidence in pursuing them.

Do you know anyone like this?

Even though Geena may seem like an extreme example, the truth is many women come to me for coaching because they notice that despite their past successes and their many amazing qualities, they just don’t have the confidence they need in order to move forward with their soul-centered projects and goals.

Like Geena, these women are very talented, intelligent and sensitive but, for some reason, they still harbor a deep-seated feeling of inadequacy. In other words, they lack confidence. Oftentimes they feel like they are frauds at their work and in their personal lives, and are somehow essentially unable to achieve, or undeserving of the type of job or lifestyle they truly desire.

How does this happen?

Women like Geena create “failure stories” about themselves and their abilities based on both external circumstances in their lives and what they perceive other people think of them. These failure stories become strongly activated when they hit challenges or disappointments in their life. For example: if a client happens to leave them, if they don’t land the job they really want, if their partner breaks up with them, if they gain five pounds, or, simply, if they don’t feel they are living up to the standards they have set for themselves.

When you lack confidence, it affects you in many ways. It can affect your decision making skills, the types of jobs you believe you deserve and then apply for, the salary you ask for, your relationships, and even how you treat your body.

When I work with women, we very often find that their lack of confidence stems from early life experiences where they were not given the proper feedback in order to objectively see themselves. Usually influential people like parents, teachers, older siblings and mentors serve as mirrors for us in our early years, they show us what we should think of ourselves.

Confidence issues can arise from having been told by an influential person that you were just not capable of, or allowed to do, certain things. Conversely, confidence issues can be produced by having been constantly fed positive, yet too general statements, like that you were simply “good at everything.”

When you are not given accurate mirrors and reflections to help you understand what your strengths and weaknesses are, it becomes very difficult for you to assess yourself and thereby have confidence in your actual capabilities and talents. It is essential to have a strong objective sense of self in order for you to be happy and to have confidence in your ability to create a life that is aligned for you… and it is very possible to cultivate this sense of self, no matter what your previous experiences have been!

To help you with this mighty, yet rewarding, task, I would like to present you with an easy process that will help you begin to assess your own strengths and weaknesses.

1) Create a list of your strengths, talents, positive qualities, and “wins”: It is essential for you to get clear on what you are good at and what your gifts are. This list can include anything from “great at book-keeping” to “intuitive” to “great at communicating with others” to “extensive knowledge of X, Y, or Z” to “organizing a major conference with 500 attendees.”

2) Create a list of the areas in your life – inner or outer – that you sense you would like to improve: Getting clear on this is just as important as getting clear on your strengths because it allows you let go of your failure stories and focus on amping up the areas that you sense would really be beneficial to you. This list can include anything from “becoming more organized” to “strengthening my core muscles” to “becoming more informed about X, Y, or Z” to “expressing my anger appropriately.”

3) Create a list of your “weaker” areas that you are willing to accept: This is key. There is no single person that I know that is good and fully developed at EVERYTHING. It’s simply not possible. However, I find that quite often folks beat themselves up for not being good at everything, thus adding more evidence and strength to their failure story. Get clear on the things that you may not have a natural strength for, and that don’t really matter to you anyway. For example, I will most likely never be a super-star athlete, and that is ok with me. My health and care for my body are important to me, but excelling at team sports is not a priority in my life.

Once you create these lists, you will be able to objectively and powerfully assess yourself and your capabilities, providing you with an opportunity to let go of your failure story and create a new and real picture based on the sacred, incredible person that you are.

Joanna Lindenbaum, M.A., has 12 years of teaching and coaching experience. Her coaching invites women to think bigger, to embrace their power, to create more compelling and exciting goals for themselves, to become leaders, to connect to their intuition, to open their hearts, and to make it a practice of remembering how special and important they are. Her coaching philosophy centers on a deep respect for the inner wisdom that each woman holds inside of herself. By activating this inner wisdom, Joanna helps her clients achieve extraordinary success in business, career, and life. Sign up for Joanna’s complimentary “How to Overcome the 5 Most Common Obstacles to Success” at http://soulfulcoach.com/ecourse.php.

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All you have to do now is apply these techniques to dating and your relationships with others. By doing so you will improve your dating confidence and so avoid feelings of inadequacy.



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Pros and Cons: Online Dating

Posted in online dating, Pros and Cons of Online Dating on May 19th, 2010 by Michael Brady – 1 Comment Tags: ,

Pros and Cons: Online Dating

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Let’s look at the pros and cons of online dating. How does dating online compare with the same thing in the offline world? To help us out we have an article from guest author Michael Brady. In he points out the advantages and disadvantages of dating online.

Here at Penpals.be we want you to remember that we recommend PenPalsPlanet.com for online dating. The pen pals approach is definitely a point for the pros of online dating because it takes away the ‘in your face’ nature of some online dating encounters. Simply select your age group on the panel on the right of this page then click the button and you’ll be whisked away to a whole new world of singles online who are out there just waiting to meet you!

The Pros and Cons of Online Dating:
Learning All About Online Dating
By Michael Brady.

If you happen to be single right now, there’s good news! Believe it or not, you are in luck! The internet is making dating easier than ever before, now you don’t even have to leave your home to scan through hundreds of potential mates. Welcome to the wonderful world of online dating!

If you have the ability to get online from your home computer, you are in luck. Internet dating has never been easier or more fun. There are many different online sites to choose from, which let you look through thousands of profiles in a matter of minutes.

As soon as you click on someone’s online dating profile, you will typically find their photograph, a description of what they are interested in romantically, and a listing of their hobbies, likes and dislikes. Just think of how long it would have taken you to find all that out on a traditional date. [A point for the pros].

Online dating makes it fast and easy to discard the profiles that you are not interested in. There is no need to spend an evening on an uncomfortable date anymore! [Another for the pros].

Of course there are cons to consider when it comes to dating online as well. Dating over the internet does remove a lot of the personal aspects of meeting someone in the flesh. Over the internet, you miss out on hearing the tone of the person’s voice, seeing the way that they carry themselves and getting a chance to feel them out right away.

You may be one of the lucky ones and find someone that you would like to date right away when searching online. If this is the case, you can make a date for the two of you to get together and see how you interact with one another in a social setting. Try to set a date that will not take much time, such as meeting for coffee. This way, if there are no sparks, you are not committed to a long evening together.

Before you know it, with a little bit of practice you will be online dating like a pro! The internet can be an exciting place. There may be some profiles out there that you’ll wish you had never seen, but remember it only takes one good one to make it all worthwhile for you.

Online dating is growing in popularity and prevalence with all age levels. You can pick a senior dating site or one that is dedicated to the younger set and be making new friends and acquaintances right away.


Well, we’ve looked at the pros and cons of online dating. Now’s the time to try it out for yourself.
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